Real Estate Warrior’s Interview with Sarah Farris, Principal and Founder at Vibe Elevated

Posted on: March 24, 2020

Interview with Sarah Farris

Image of Sarah Farris, Courtesy of Vibe Elevated

Real Estate Warrior-RW

Sarah Farris-SF


RW : Describe the nature of your business and the clients you serve.

SF : Vibe Elevated serves a worldwide client base helping people develop greater emotional awareness and resilience in the workplace and beyond. I work as an emotional intelligence and energy expert because I believe while we can’t always control what happens to us, we can control how we choose to respond. I help people focus what they do have control over and give them tools and techniques to better regulate and understand their emotions and how to better connect with the people in their life.

RW : Why is emotional intelligence important and what do you mean when you talk about energy? 

SF : When we talk about energy, we are looking at that intangible thing that you feel from someone you encounter. Excluding body language, we all can pick up on the energy of the people around us whether we're aware of it or not. Maybe you notice that someone’s energy feels off or that you’ve connected with someone you’re super comfortable with immediately even if you’ve just met. Being aware of our own energy is critical as it is sort of a calling card we bring with us everywhere we are. We are so busy moving through life we often miss the chance to consider what energy we are presenting. 

Emotional intelligence entails being aware of our energy, emotions, and knowing how to connect with people in an authentic way. It’s knowing how to build and leverage relationships with the people around us. As a direct result, people with a high emotional quotient make on average $29,000 more per year, tangible evidence this is not an esoteric concept, but translates to higher income. 

RW : Describe your typical client.

SF : My clients are from different countries around the world and range in age from 16-70’s. I do have two separate demographics, the first being women that are early on in their careers who need help navigating male dominated work forces learning how to assert themselves in the workplace, or want to feel more comfortable trusting their gut but don’t know where to start.

The second is women in leadership or management roles or entrepreneurs who experience a variety of challenges such as impostor syndrome, a mental dialog resulting in feeling inadequate, burnout, or the belief they won’t be taken serious regardless of their accomplishments. This group benefits from managing their energy and knowing what steps to take as driven high performers who might lack the tools to manage their energy and emotional responses.

RW : Do you see a parallel or commonality in the women in these two groups?

SF : Women struggling to understand their intuition. Women in general are usually taught that it’s OK to trust and use their intuition to protect our young and assess risk, but many don’t know where to start or feel like they can only be intuitive when it comes to certain areas of life (i.e. anticipating the needs of their kids versus being able to use their instinct at work). Men are generally taught different messages related to intuition. 

RW : Do you find a lot of people are using their intuition, but aren’t aware of it?

SF: Many people receive intuitive information but do not realize it. It took me 25 years to realize the information I was receiving was my intuition. It doesn’t have to be some woo woo new age thing. We all possess intuition regardless of gender, it’s something we can all use to help us excel in every single area of our life. But we first need to have the willingness to work with it and the awareness of how it shows up. Everyone experiences intuition differently and many people are highly intuitive but have no idea. People dismiss their intuition emotional quotient all the time because it doesn’t align with logic Intelligence quotient.

RW : How do you teach people the value of learning to trust that and how to go about trusting their intuition?

SF : Everyone is different depending on their unique upbringing; some families encourage their children to listen to their guts while others don’t place as much value in it. I always start with their baseline, their foundation of beliefs surrounding intuition before I can start helping them build from there. 

RW : What tangible help are you offering your clients, especially in these chaotic times in which we are living?

SF : My focus is always helping people with two main things, 

1. How to have a better understanding of their energy and their emotions.

2. How to better control their reaction.

When people are feeling anxious, it’s often because they feel like they lack control. Practicing something as simple as asking, what am I feeling right now, what could I do for myself in this moment to help alleviate whatever it is I’m feeling? That helps us understand what actionable steps we need to take in order to improve our environment or situation. This is especially important right now because so much of what’s taking place is out of our immediate control. Being able to check in and ask yourself that basic question is fundamental to developing a high emotional quotient and being proactive about what you can control in your life.

RW : For me, talking everything out is how I process how I feel. It’s my learning style as a highly visual/auditory learner. How do you address different styles of processing information that different people have?

​​​​​​​SF : That’s why I do one on one work with clients because everyone is unique. The programs I offer give you tools that are designed specifically for you, regardless of what outcome we’re working toward it must be a set of tools that are going to work for you. This is designed to empower you to feel in control and reduce frustration, a tool that works well for me might not be effective for you and would cause you to feel even more frustrated.

RW : How do you operate your business and help your clients during this distancing we’re experiencing? 

SF : For the last four years I’ve operated 90% of my business over the phone. Whether we are working together for one session or over the course of a four-month program, you’ll get the same results whether I’m there in person or on the phone. It’s amazing to work with people across the world and realize no matter where or who we are, we all have the same root fears, worries, and motivations. I find that intrinsically so inspiring. 

RW : Have you seen changes in what your clients are seeking help with because of this pandemic?

SF : This pandemic has ushered in so much change in many people’s lives. It’s forced many of us to focus on the next immediate step of survival as opposed to more distant planning. Many of my corporate clients were seeking help onboarding new hires and planning for the future and this has caused a cease to the longer-range plan and an intense focus on the immediate.

RW : Are you seeing positive benefits from this sudden re-boot people are experiencing?

SF : Watching this evolve has been heartbreaking on many levels, but also has been fascinating to observe. There is nothing like crisis to help us rapidly understand what our priorities are and what we need to do to align with that. The benefit is if there was something we were doing that wasn’t serving us well, this event has forced us to face those things and re-evaluate what we will do moving forward. If we can lean into that discomfort and learn we can emerge with more strength and wisdom, but we must be willing to do that. We derive comfort and stability from routine and now many people are missing that and are feeling that discomfort. People struggling with anxiety or strong emotions right now can find ways to comfort themselves by creating structure and routine which can help us feel more present in such an unpredictable time.

We’re experiencing a wide range of emotions now and that vacillates rapidly from moment to moment. This is our new normal, what we’re experiencing is having to problem solve and process simultaneously. 

Unlike what we experienced during 9/11 where the event itself took place within a short period of time, this is unfolding in front of our eyes and we are problem solving and processing constantly. Because we’re regularly getting new information, we don’t necessarily have the time we need to process; instead, we have to problem solve and act almost immediately. Don’t feel guilty if you’re experiencing a wide range of emotions. A good coping tool is to try and turn your focus away from yourself toward other people and think about how you can help. For instance, check in with people, neighbors, friends, or loved ones. It gets you out of the spiral in your head and helps you connect with people around you and that’s productive.

RW : If your post went viral, what would you like for it to say?

SF : Don’t lose sight of the good that you can take from this experience, even if you think every possible thing that could have gone wrong did. Challenge yourself to ask, what was this experience here to teach me? Life is full of challenges, what good is any of that if we don’t learn and grow from those experiences? Focusing on what happened to us can get us stuck in a victim mentality where we focus on the lost lives or lost money or lost jobs. Challenging ourselves to find the light in a dark moment is the best thing we can do for ourselves in the long run. Anytime we’re put in chaos, it’s an opportunity to show who we are by how we react. People who can pivot and move forward will emerge much stronger and with a more profound appreciation of the ideas and innovation of which they are capable.

​​​​​​​This isn’t to say hide from the immediate decisions you need to make if you’re figuring out how to pivot right now, stay focused on putting one foot in front of the other and take things moment by moment. As you move through the decisions of the quick action you must take, remember to ask, “what can I learn from this”?  

We all process differently so don’t take people’s reactions personally right now because everyone is experiencing different emotions in different ways. Take a few steps back and realize it’s not always about you, they’re just processing. 

RW : What’s your steady best advice right now?

SF : Stay present, our information evolves by the minute. Don’t waste you time on thinking about something that may change anyway. What do I have control over right now and what can I do to take care of myself and keep my affairs in order instead of future tripping.

RW : Are you available for new clients and how can people connect with you?

SF : Yes, I’m taking new clients and as a reminder all sessions take place over the phone. You can email me at Sarah@Vibeelevated.com or visit my web site www.vibeelevated.com and learn about the services I offer. I also have special page of resources I’ve created to help you manage during this pandemic.

Most of us are so busy we neglect taking time out of our schedules to focus on ourselves. This is a great opportunity to explore changes you need to make and leverage what’s coming up or learn ways to be more productive or proactive. I offer a free 20-minute consultation where you can explore how this process works and how an energy session can benefit you. 
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